Ray at our Wedding, April 26th, 1997
Ray doing his life trade - approximately 1984
I have been waiting to do this post for a week and a half. My father - in-law passed away last week of pneumonia. He suffered from Alzheimers for the last 2 years. My heart is aching so much, I find myself tearing up while I am doing my everyday routine. Everywhere I look, something reminds me of him. I know that I have to remember all the memories that I have created with him and share with my family.
Ray,Kennedy, and I - Christmas 1998One thing I know for sure, is he loved his family, especially his children and grandchildren. Like President Allen said, in some ways this was his fault, he loved them too much. I remember him being over protective of our children. Ofc. Holt and I have had several discussions about his dad taking over our children like they belonged to him. Funny to me now, but at the time a serious issue. I loved Ray. I knew how much he loved us and cared about us that it swells my heart with pride. He was so proud of us... i know this to be true.
He was so hard headed, I mean it! I have never in my life met anyone like him. When Ofc. Holt and I decided to live across the street from him, he moved us all by himself. He couldn't wait until Ofc. Holt got off work, it had to be done, and so by himself, he packed up his horse trailer with all of our belongings and moved us in one day. He had a smile on his face the entire time. He was so excited, he could barely control himself.
Every Friday night, from the time we moved in till Lil'Colby turned school age, he asked for Bub to spend the night. He loved him, he loved them all.
You could always depend on Ray. No matter what obstacle Ofc. Holt and I would have in our young marriage, Ray gave all to ensure our happiness. He loved his youngest son, so much. I know that Ray's mind started going in 2004, but he couldn't have been more proud of Ofc. Holt when he graduated from the Police Academy.